At what age does a (baby) monitor become an invasion of privacy?
Bonham has never come into our room to get me. Ever. If he wakes up at night and needs me, he call for me. When he gets up in the morning, he calls for me. He has gone through phases where he will come get me in the morning, but never at night.
In our old house I could hear him from our room. I hadn't gotten rid of the monitor yet, but I was feeling like I could and should...but then we moved. We live in a smaller place overall, but the placement of our rooms makes it so I cannot hear him...unless it is 100% silent and he screams.
That might be ok. I mean, if he really needs me, he will scream. But....it's not really the middle of the night that comes to mind. Right now the monitor allows me to hear him even when we are in our room with the TV on. If I take away the monitor and he calls and I don't hear him, then eventually he will start just coming into our room to get me. Do I want this? Right now we live in pretty much certainty that the "pop in" visit will not happen.

Another obstacle is potty training. Yes, Bonham still wears a pull up at night. Look, please don't judge me or tell me I suck. Bonham potty trained early....by 2 1/2, at least with pee....poop was a longer process. We didn't even attempt night at that time. I kind of thought a time would naturally come when his pull up was dry in the morning and we would try then. But that hasn't happened. He refuses to get up and go on his own at night. So, I have told him that starting now anytime he calls me in at night (he sometimes has bad dreams or whatever. He's just never been a great sleeper and sometimes he calls me in...anyway agin, don't judge) that we will go potty while I am in there. And I have said he call ask to go potty anytime and I will take him (which makes me cry....the thought if increasing my night trips to his room rather than decrease...oh god!) So....these lead me to think we need to keep the monitor.
But honestly I feel like a jackass for still using/having one. Btw, ours is usually set so low that I barely hear him over it. So I'm not like listening to him breath or sleep or anything. It just helps make it so he can call to me without screaming.
Am I the only one out there with a monitor in their 5 year old's room? I almost want to give him a walkie talkie to just call me when he needs me...seems more age appropriate. Anyway....let me hear your thoughts. Be gentle with me....